What are the preferable qualities, which Islam motivates the man or the woman to find in the partner?
Islam necessities the presence of both the religious and the moral traits upon choosing the future partner. For instance, the Prophet (p.) once said: “If the religious and the moral qualities exist in the proposed partner, accept the proposal, otherwise it would turn out to be a greatest corruption on earth.” For more clarification, a man once consulted the Prophet(p.) about the kind of the person he should get married to. The Prophet (p.) advised: “The religious one.”
Going deep into the word “religious”, we could understand that the mind, the heart, and the body are inclusive. A religious or a pious person is known for his commitment to his religious duties within himself and with others as well. A pious person who is faithful and obedient to Allah knows and respects his limits and the limits of others. Thus, the presence of the religious element guarantees the success and the healthiness of a marriage life.
In addition, Islam focuses on the presence of the moral side in the process of choice to a partner. The moral side is so essential in that it enriches the spiritual one. The presence of both the moral and the spiritual empowers the relation and strengthens it against any shaking trouble. These two elements help in the compatibility of the partners yet they become more faithful, more honest, and more merciful to each other. Islam concentrates on and highlights the importance of the presence of the moral side for the moral side for the success of any human relation not only the marriage-relation.
The Prophet (pbuh) said: “I have been commissioned to perfect the best of morals.”
Allah also says:
“Marry those among you who are single, or the virtuous ones among yourselves, male or female: if they are in poverty, Allah will give them means out of His grace: for Allah encompasseth all, and he knoweth all things.”
However, Islam doesn’t give any credence to the partner’s economical side simply because money doesn’t make a man’ it doesn’t form one’s human values; it is man who makes money that is why the presence of money is not stable; it easily goes. Allah says: “If they be poor, Allah will enrich them of His bounty. Allah is of ample means, Aware.
In fact, a person might be poor but rich in his values, love, and care.
Grand Ayatollah H.E. Sayyed M. H. Fadlullah (r.a.)